4th Group: The Power and Control Wheel & Equality Wheel
Instructions to students:
What you should do is to list examplesof behaviours that someone would use which can fit under the titles of “Violent Behaviours”, that you have below.
Dating Violence Power & Control Wheel
Harassment: Follows his/her partner and frequently shows up uninvited. Makes prank phone calls. Spreads rumors. Tries to have contact after the victim has ended the relationship.
Intimidation: Tries to scare his/her partner by smashing things, yelling, driving reck lessly, or with looks and gestures. Threatens to get his/her partner in trouble with fam ily, friends or school.
Violating his/her partner’s privacy: Reads his/her notes to or from other people. Goes through his/her purse, locker or book bag without permission. Forces unwanted intimacy. Refuses to stop “wrestling” when asked.
Threats: Threatens to harm his/her partner, his/her friends or family. Threatens to commit suicide if s/he leaves him/her or doesn’t do what he/she wants. Threatens to break up with her/him.
Using Male Privilege: Acts like he is the boss and what he says, goes. Tells his partner that men make all the decisions. Demands to get his permission to go somewhere or do something.
Limiting Independence: Wants to control what she/he wears and how she/he looks. Pressures his/her partner to use alcohol or drugs. Wants to make all the decisions in the relationship.
Humiliation: Calls her/him names privately or in front of others. Puts down or makes fun of her/him. Inappropriately grabs her/him or shows off her/his personal items in public.
Isolation: Pressures her/him to choose between him/her and her/his friends or family. Pressures her/him to quit activities.
Instructions to students:
What you should do is to list examplesof behaviours that someone would use which can fit under the titles of “BEHAVIOURS OF EQUALITY “that you have below.
Equality Wheel
Negotiation and Fairness: Seeking mutually satisfying resolutions to conflict. Accept ing changes. Being willing to compromise.
NonThreatening Behaviour: Talking and acting so that she/he feels safe and comfortable expressing herself/himself and doing things.
Respect: Listening to his/her partner non judgmentally. Being emotionally affirming and un derstanding. Valuing the other person’s opinions.
Trust and Support: Supporting her/his goals in life. Respecting her/his right to her/his own feel ings, friends, activities and opinions.
Honesty and Accountability: Accepting responsibility for self. Acknowledging past use of violence. Admitting being wrong. Communicating openly and truthfully.
SelfConfidence and personal Growth: Respecting her/his personal identity and encourag ing her/his individual growth and freedom. Supporting her/his security in her/his own worth.
Shared power: Taking mutual responsibility for recognizing influence on the relation ship. Making decisions together.
Communication: Willingness to have open and spontaneous dialogue. Having a bal ance of giving and receiving. Problem solving to mutual benefit. Learning to compromise without one overshadowing the other